Tuesday, August 23, 2016
Sunday, August 14, 2016
Then I realized where I was wrong.
Jesus has already walked the path and gained eternal salvation and happiness. We are somewhere far away struggling, perhaps heading in the wrong direction. Wherever we are, no matter how far, if we will call, Jesus will come. Away from His place of rest and comfort into the wilderness and storms. When He reaches us, He will hold out His hand in invitation. He will not grab us and pull us, He will give us His hand to take. When we are holding His hand, He will hold on tightly enough to help us when we stumble, but gently and loosely enough that if we pull away, we are free to go. If we do take our hand from His, He will invite. He will look at us with love and sorrow. He will speak, often so softly we have to really want to hear. But He will not restrain us. If we decide the path He is leading on is too hard and turn to follow another, He will not follow. He will call. He will wait. But He will not walk with us down the wrong path. When we realize our foolishness and yearn to be with Him again, we may try to retrace our steps but find the way too hard. What looked like a gentle easy path becomes difficult and impassable on the way back. If we will call Him, He will come. Again. And again. Every time. Somehow with Him, we can climb back up. Slowly, painfully. He will coach, He will guide, He will give us a boost, but He will not transport us. We must make each step. We must want to make it. We must trust His love, wisdom and guidance. And He will walk with us. He will help carry our burden. He will put His arms around us. He whisper words of encouragement. And with His help we will climb the highest mountains and gain the grandest views. Jesus, Savior, Walk With Me!
As we were out running errands, my phone rang. Andrew took the call. A man announced he was from Publishers Clearing House and we had won a prize. There was some difficulty understanding each other, but eventually we ascertained that he wanted us to meet him at Walmart. I said , "No, thank you" He mumbled something that sounded slightly rude and the call (from Jamaica, btw) was ended. Sigh. Threw away our big chance at financial independence.
Wednesday, July 13, 2016
Wednesday, May 11, 2016
Wednesday, April 27, 2016
I have from time to time had drainage problems. A plumber acquaintance told me that my pipes are improperly supported, bowing, and collecting sludge which caused the back-ups and worsened the bows. He suggested that he fix it independently for $3000. I thought that was high especially since those pipes were put in new only 10 years ago (just before the divorce) and supposedly had a lifetime guarantee. Well, the guarantee is meaningless, just an unsigned, undated bit of advertising really. I called the contractor who said they would come out for $125 and look it over. I must say I was not delighted with their attitude, but I don't think they cared for my call, either as I was pushing the idea of a guarantee. But they also called the guy who worked on it at the time with a company since defunct. Dave the plumber has moved to the Bay Area and said he had no legal obligation, but felt a personal pride of work and moral obligation. He came out yesterday. Right off I gave him (unbidden) $50 for gas. Which he appreciated. Anyway, he went under, took pictures, and did a little bit of banging. He said my pipes are properly supported by straps at every floor joist. (I think it was joist). There is slight, but normal bowing between straps. There was one pipe from tub to the out drain (or whatever) that lacked a strap, but he strapped it (hence the banging). He said part of the problem is we have only a slight fall from kitchen to drain. Also, we have been trying to conserve water, so we have not been flushing our pipes. The water goes down and we are foolishly happy, but the water outruns anything it is carrying and then it builds up. The solution? Once a week or more, put a little cleaner - Dawn dish soap, bleach, vinegar, whatever - in the drain, fill the sink, and flush out the pipes, maybe running the water another minute or so after the sink empties. No need to replace pipes. It sounds right to me. When he finished and went to leave, I paid him (again unbidden) $100. He was very happy. So was I. He sounded and felt honest and he saved me potential thousands. Yes, it cost me a little more than the other company for a look-see, but I trust him more.
I had taken the entire day off on vacation since I had no idea how long the plumbing thing would take. I started feeling unwell Monday, which got progressively worse. By the time I got home, I just went home and let my guys take over. (Bless them) I was fairly ill Tuesday, but rallied for the plumbing episode. I could not present as a responsible homeowner unwashed and in PJs. So I dressed and did light make-up and tried to be grown up. As soon as he left, it was PJs again. I expected to be back to normal by evening, but missed the deadline. Today I was better enough to come to work. I knew I would fret about some things if I didn't. Although some systems are a little touchy, I feel better in other ways for the day of resting. I think I will change my time-sheet to sick leave rather than vacation.
And happy day - Miriam drove herself to a doctor appointment and then picked up And,rew when he missed a transit connection. It's great that she can do some things now.
Sunday, February 21, 2016
Monday, November 2, 2015
Whether I take this street or that doesn't make much difference as long as they get me to work and home again. Variety can be interesting. Detours need not keep me from my goal. But I was thinking that once we find the path to eternal life, even though it may be tedious, repetitious, and even difficult, it is vital that we stay on that path. Detours can be dangerous and lead us off in the wrong direction. Hold to the rod. Stay on the true path. It is the only way to get where we want to go.
2015.11.02 1530 CalPERS tells me that it may be 60 days before they figure out what his retirement will be and what my share will be. Which sounds like it may be 2 months (or so?) before either of us gets a check. This may be a little unpleasant for me and difficult for him. He had said he was going to check into getting his Foresters (401K?). It isn't much, but could help tide him over. CalPERS said one should start the paperwork 3 months before retiring. oh. I guess we find out "next year."
Thursday, August 6, 2015
Miriam went with Ruth and family to visit Sariah for a week over the 4th of July. She did not participate in a lot of their activities - a hike, a day a the zoo. She took it somewhat easy. They got back Tuesday. Miriam had dinner at Ruth's, went home, and didn't get out of bed except to use the bathroom until she called Ruth Thursday asking for help. Ruth called me. Miriam and her landlady that she rents a room from she would say are friends. But they didn’t pay any attention at all to the other's comings and goings and Miriam could expect any help from her. Like knowing if she was sick in bed, bringing ice for her swollen legs,or helping her if she could not go downstairs for food. Ruth brought her home and mother henned Miriam a little, for almost a month. thank goodness!
I had suspected that this time would come, but these things almost always come sooner than expected. I told Miriam long ago that she didn't have to struggle to be on her own, that she would have a home here. The plan pretty much would be for her to live/home base here and visit her siblings when she needs to get away.
However before Miriam could move, I needed to do some serious de-junking and shuffling, so we would have a room for her. I had thought that after Benjamin got married and moved out, that I would start working on the house. But we began to realize an urgency. I took a family sick day one Friday early to get started. David and Teresa came over to help the next day. We worked at it a bit on evenings and more on Saturdays.
The plan was to clean out the "office/craft room/stow it/cat room" and paint it. Move Joseph and Andrew in there, me and the office/craft room into the "master" bedroom which the three guys occupied, and give Miriam the corner bedroom I was. It's a room she shared with Sariah long ago and has a door handle easier for her to use. I feel a little guilty taking the biggest room and not giving it to her - but I do have the office and craft stuff. And David and Teresa are pretty sure that she would feel too much of a imposition if she had the master room.
Getting things out took much longer than I figured. I am so disorganized and have so much junk that this was a major undertaking. We had to postpone plans to paint the guys' room - which would have been so much fun! We plan to paint it camouflage and I imaged a bit of a wild painting party. Some sorting and dejunking happened, but in reality, I have probably months of sorting to do - if I am diligent.
Benjamin and Bethany are wed and on their honeymoon, but do not have an apartment. It took a lot of doing, but they have completed all the paperwork for one. Last I heard, the previous tenant who was supposed to be out weeks ago, wasn't. Hopefully the apartment will be available when they get back. If not, what do do? Options are: Stay in Bethany's old room. Nobody seems to like the idea. and it's far from anywhere or from public transportation. 2. stay in a hotel/motel for a few days. Hopefully a few days. OR 3. stay in my family room. Not much privacy, but they are welcome.
Until they get a place, Benjamin's stuff is stacked about in the front room.
Despite my boss to the 3rd power decreeing that no one in Accounting may have vacation in June, July, or August, I took a week of family sick leave to dig out Miriam's room. We got the room pretty nice, but the rest of the house remains a shambles. It will take me quite awhile to attain order. I come home from work too tired to do much of anything so it will be slow going.
Also, Miriam needs to do the same thing with the room she has been renting. Sort, pack, and move things from a not really big, but bigger room and garage storage area to her new room. And we need to help her, of course. She is not feeling well and needs to stay off her feet because of sores. Naturally there is a time limit. We don't want her to have to pay rent after this month. I think we can do it.
You may recall that I was recently released as Primary President. I was sad about it at the time. Now I see that the Lord knew my plate was going to be pretty full and He gave me one less set of responsibilities to worry about. And sent a friend to do the wedding brunch as a gift to Benjamin and I. What a blessing! The wedding was at the end of move-in week and I simply could not have done it as I had thought before I knew Miriam needed to come home (even with the help of darling daughters). AND He inspired another friend to call and volunteer use of his trailer to help move Miriam's furniture later this month. We had not thought to ask these friends. We did not know that they could help. But the Lord knew and they listened to His promptings. Tender Mercies!