A thought for today in my email:
"Temple marriage covenants do not magically bring equality to a partnership. Those covenants commit us to a developmental process of learning and growing together—by practice. ". . . Equal partnerships are not made in heaven—they are made on earth, one choice at a time, one conversation at a time, one threshold crossing at a time. And getting there is hard work."
Bruce C. Hafen, "Crossing Thresholds and Becoming Equal Partners," Ensign, Aug. 2007, 28
I can tell you that is true. It sometimes seems that Mormons think that getting married in the temple guarantees a happily-ever-after. The sealing covenants are, like pretty much everything else, promises with conditions. We have to keep our part of the bargain - at least act in good faith.
My mother and husband #3 went to the temple to bolster a failing marriage. That didn't work. It only complicated things when they divorced and each married somebody else.
My ex and I were sealed in the temple, but sealings don't prevent or solve problems.
I do believe in temple covenants and temple marriages. Nothing can be more wonderful than knowing that you and your loved ones belong to each other forever. It just takes a lot more than a ceremony performed by the proper authority, although that is necessary. It takes truly loving each other as an unselfish active verb not just a warm feeling once in a while - a way of life, a deep personal commitment. It takes being close to the Lord. Being honest with each other. It takes treating each other with respect and kindness.
I do believe in happily ever after and I wish it for all I love (oh, everyone else, too), but you have to work for it.